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Mark S's avatar

So amazing! Clear, too- I love the power of the word 'and'. I had not seen it this way before. I saw my personalities at a town hall meeting, and the common, working me (dressed in work clothes), called out the devil me for always dressing like the rest

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Ana Ally's avatar

This made me both laugh and nod—thanks for sharing. The town hall example is perfect. The beauty of “and” is that all those voices get to exist together, no censorship required. I’m glad this post landed for you!

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Mark S's avatar

+ thank you

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Matthew Ally's avatar

Beautiful. Wonderful. A halcyon call to trust, and rest, in complexity and complementarity. We live in a world that so valorizes decisiveness, a world that celebrates the courageous decision-maker and denigrates the undecided as wishy-washy or fence-sitting or even cowardly. You really got me thinking about what it means to be decisive, and what it means to be indecisive. Sometimes we must decide, and fast. No doubt about that. And in those times of real urgency we have special resources to draw on. But what you have shown so well here is that often, and probably far more often than not, indecision is not a matter of something lacking. It's a gift. If only we open it up and look, our not-knowing-what-to-do is a place of abundance. Who knows what our indecision might have to give? There's only one way to find out. The next time I'm feeling indecisive (as long as the situation isn't urgent), I'm going to try to stop worrying about not knowing what to do and take a breath and look around.

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Ana Ally's avatar

I love how you put it that our not-knowing is not necessarily a lack, but a kind of abundance. Yes! There’s such a deep reframe here. Of indecision not as failure or weakness, but as a potent space, full of possibility, full of life still speaking.

And I think you’re exactly right that our culture prizes fast action so highly that we forget how much wisdom can live in the pause, in the willingness to stay with complexity for a little longer. It feels like an act of profound trust, both in ourselves and in the unfolding process of life 🙏🏽✨

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Denise Charles's avatar

Love this Ana, the beauty of and. ❤️❤️❤️

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Ana Ally's avatar

Thanks Denny! Such a small yet powerful word ❤️

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